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Hmm, new message!

Wow, you have certainly decided to send me an extremely detailed and sexually explicit message, dude I talked to briefly at a party. Why would you...

Ah, I see. It was because we were both at a sexy party and you assumed that our mutual attendance gave you consent to send me incredibly sexual messages about my body.

I guess sharing a sexually charged space with you has left you with a weird sense of entitlement about what kind of attention and time I should give you and what kind of communication I will be receptive to.

How about I reply back and say that this is not an appropriate email to send someone when making contact for the first time. How kind I'm being, taking time to educate you about basic etiquette. Certainly you'll apolo-

Gosh, nope! That is exactly the opposite of an apology!

I know guys can be gross, but they often don't know better because no one has told them differently. But why can't women and femmefolk understand that and be willing to point out when men step over the line so they can be better in the future? Everyone would benefit!

Unsolicited

Posted on February 17, 2016 by Robot Hugs

New comic! As an addendum to this - prefacing your creepy, sexually explicit, unsolicited message with 'I hope you don't think this is too forward but...' is not some kind of get out of jail free card that nullifies the grossness of the communication. It merely indicates that you are very aware that the message is inappropriate, but you are just trying to preempt any sort of consequence with a disingenuous social nicety. Anyways, I would like to reiterate for the billionth time that it is not the unpaid responsibility of women/femmefolk to be the ones to teach adult men manners. Those who disagree are welcome to an education session at my usual workshop/speaking engagement rates.